What Parents and Teenagers need to know about Discipline

Daily tipWhy are Teenagers disciplined? Does it mean teenagers cant live with their parents without being desciplined? Check out this challenge, the family rule is cell phones off 9:00 p.m, but twice this week you caught your daughter texting past midnight. Your curfew is 10:00 p.m., but last night once again you came home after 11:00. Teenagers can do better. But first you need to know why he or she seems to be flouting your rules. The good news? What appears to be outright difiance may be something far less serious.

WHY IT HAPPENS 

Unclear boundaries. Some teenagers ignore rules in order to see what that they can get away with. For example, if a parent has said that a certain misdeed would result in a particular consequence, a teenager might test boundaries to see if the parent will follow through. Are such teenagers becoming hardened rebels? Not necessarily. The fact is, teens are more likely to be lax about obeying rules when parents have not been consistent in enforcing consequences or when the boundaries have not been clearly defined. Rigidity. Some parents try to control their teenager with an endless list of rules. When the teen disobeys, the parent gets angry and imposes even more rules. Often, however, that only makes matters worse. The book Parent/Teen Breakthrough, explains '' The more you try to gain control, the more your teenager resists,'' adding '' The control approach feels like trying to spread cold butter on soft bread: it just tears the bread apart, and the solution isn't to spread harder.'' We know that proper discipline can help. Different from ''punishment'' which means to make someone suffer while ''discipline'' basically means to teach. Tips on What Teenagers Can Do Be clear: Teenagers need to know precisely what is expected of them and what the consequences of disobedience will be. Be reasonable. Show yourself to be a flexible parent by according more freedom as it is earned. Teenagers should also be reasonable and wait for the right time to approach their parents. What now is the answer to those questions? I bet you know it! For post like this and others follow us on Facebook below Feel free share!